HOW TO DIVORCE DURING THE WAR (B+) - Dry as toast, this story of a Lithuanian couple going through a divorce manages to dig into the crevices of a sclerotic marriage, refusing to take either side while finding deadpan humor in love and war.
Marija (Zygimante Elena Jakstaite) is a high-ranking editor at a company that produces viral videos, but she is dead inside, no longer in love with her husband, Vytas (Marius Repsys), whose filmmaking career has foundered while he performs menial domestic duties all day, looking after their adolescent daughter. Marija is frustrated with the traditional role reversal, and she longs to live a more exciting life. (Turns out, she has a secret on the side that reveals how desperate she is for fresh affection and a more lustful life.)
She announces her intentions to seek a divorce and split up the household, but the next day Russia invades Ukraine, sending shockwaves throughout Eastern Europe. The breakup happens -- Vytas schleps home to his parents, whose minds are warped by Russian propaganda TV that beams in through their satellite dish -- but things get complicated. Urged on by the daughter, Marija agrees to take in a Ukrainian woman and her two teenage sons. Marija also is under pressure to quit her job to protest the company's close relationship with Russian interests.
Writer-director Andrius Blazevicius refuses to sugarcoat or over-dramatize any of these events. Marija and Vytas feel like two very real 30-somethings flailing through the early onset of a midlife crisis. The Russian family turns out to be a set of rather ungrateful slobs, testing the patience of Marija, who now has to worry about money herself, with her career in flux. Meantime, Vytas finds his voice while volunteering at a refugee food bank and rekindles his creative spark.
Blazevicius uses almost no incidental music, and he refuses to let any scene devolve into histrionics. This is just how life goes sometime, our own private crises playing out while global chaos swirls in the background. Marija and Vytas are quite relatable characters -- and young Amelija Adomaityte provides key balance as the daughter, Dovile, who begins to act out at school (more complications to best this family). The couple's conversations are thought-out and feel lived-in. The droll humor lands just about every time. The ending feels earned, and it's a kick to join this couple for their journey, wherever they end up, together or apart.
GENTLE MONSTER (B-minus) - There is not much meat on the bones of this story about a couple coping with allegations of child pornography against the husband, as authorities look into whether the couple's young son also was a victim.
As we have been taught, evil can be banal. But it need not be boring. And that's the sin here by writer-director Marie Kreutzer, who perfectly nailed the female psyche with her last feature, 2022's "Corsage." Blessed again with a powerful lead -- here, Lea Seydoux -- Kreutzer noodles for nearly two hours, knowing well that the ultimate outcome is predictable. And Seydoux is overly subdued throughout; physically, she looks plump and frumpy.
Seydoux plays Lucy Weiss, a renowned French pianist whose signature is her elaborate deconstructions of popular songs, like the Cure's "Boys Don't Cry" and George Michael's "Freedom." She decides that she and her TV filmmaker husband, Philip (Laurence Rupp), need to unplug a bit by moving from Munich to the Bavarian countryside with their adolescent son. It is there that the authorities come knocking on the door to seize Philip's equipment and hard drives.
Kreutzer creates a parallel plot construction by taking a peek into the home life of the main police investigator, Elsa (Jella Haase), who dementia-addled father has been constantly trying to grope the live-in nurse. Meantime, Lucy broods a lot, keeps a close eye on her son, and seeks counsel from her mother, played by the grande dame of French cinema, Catherine Deneuve, who can still communicate volumes with an arch of her eyebrow. (The talents of both women are too often wasted here.) Philip's parents also like to meddle in Lucy's marriage, and it's a conversational slip from them that knocks the scales from Lucy's eyes.
Kreutzer has some interesting ideas but no clear road map. How does a family cope with unproved allegations like this? It's not always in the form of screaming matches, ultimatums, and flung dishes. The problem here is that the momentum never builds; there is perhaps an intentional provocation, daring us to look away and taunting us with the dearth of drama. The problem is, a lot of viewers just won't make it to the second half, especially when it comes to streaming on Netflix next month and the remote control is within arm's reach. "How to Divorce During the War" makes the mundane fascinating, digging into the desires and motivations of its characters; "Gentle Monster" struggles to scratch the surface.
BONUS TRACKS
Among the songs that Lucy reinterprets is the R&B oldie "Would I Lie to You" by Charles and Eddie, which is almost annoyingly on point:
Also on her song list is "A Groovy Kind of Love," a hit in 1966 for the Mindbenders:




















